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Rest In Peace, Queen Of Soul

As I write the Queen of Soul has just left this earth to join the heavenly choir.

She passed on August 16 - the same day as the King, so I'm guessing Aretha and Elvis will be singing up a storm!

When I first heard Aretha I wondered what all the fuss was about, then I heard her stuff from the 60's - has there ever been a more effortless and soulful pop vocal?

Great artists move us because they can channel their pain and loss into their art, Aretha did not have it easy.

Her parents separated young and her Mother died before her tenth birthday.

She had two children by the age of 14, her first marriage was unhappy and marred by rumors of abuse.

The producer of her breakthrough hit Natural Woman, was convinced that the sorrow in her relationship informed her deeply soulful vocal on a track which launched her career and sent her star soaring so high that by the time of Dr. Martin Luther King’s tragic passing, Aretha was the one honored to sing at his funeral.

Eleven years later, her Father was shot at his home, and in the following years she witnessed the death of more close family members.

But Aretha channeled her pain.

You can hear and feel the emotion in her effortless vocal that in a single note or phrase, capture so exquisitely what it means to be human - to lose what you don’t want to lose, get what you don’t want to get and deal with some form of loss every moment of our lives.

As I was researching her songs on You Tube, I saw one video entitled:

Aretha Franklin: Lifestyle | Net Worth | Cars | Houses …

I think Aretha would be the first to admit that cars, houses and money don't really matter in the end.

What matters?

Love.

The love that you have in your heart for the people in your life, the love in their hearts for you and the memories you leave them with when it’s your time to pass on.

I believe Aretha showed us love by singing.

So in Aretha’s honor, I would like to share three of my favorite songs from her long and extensive repertoire.

1. People

This song obsessed me because I could not find out who sang it.

I first heard it back in the days of CD's, when I was given the disc without a case so I had no idea who sang it.

Now I’d just look at my phone, ask Siri “who sings this?” and within a second or two Shazam will tell me, but back in the day it was blind luck and asking other people!

The lyrics, “people who need people, are the luckiest people in the world,” have always represented a challenge to me.

I’ve often had difficulty letting people into my life.

When I was 14 in school, I was the odd one out in my entire English class by adamantly stating that “I could live without love,” and “didn’t need love to live.”

If you’d asked me at that time why I believed that I didn’t need love, I couldn't have told you, but if I'd met a good Coach who could bring some awareness it would have been based on the logic that “if you don’t need people and you don’t have them, you’re okay ...

but, if you do need people and you don’t have them then you have a problem.”

So these lyrics represent a challenge to admit to myself that I need people and to let people in.

2. Do Right Woman, Do Right Man

This one gets me as a musician ... eight bars of divine introduction taking the express elevator straight to the heart of your soul.

A honey sweet organ and a silky smooth bass begin the song before abruptly stopping.

And then we hear Aretha’s all by herself beginning her close, gentle, intimate vocal.

3. Ain't No Way

Next to the song “I Can't Make You Love Me,” by Bonnie Riatt and George Michael amongst others, for me this is the ultimate song of unrequited love, beginning with the lines:

“Ain't no way for me to love you, if you won't let me …”

Later comes the killer refrain, sung with perfect vocal phrasing; “How can I? How can I? How can I give you all the things I can, if you're tying both of my hands?”

I hope these tracks move you the way they move me.

And yes this is a life coaching blog but if you relate to this songs and take the time to listen to them you can't help but feel the emotion.

And when we are truly present, and we really feel, we heal.

So I'm wishing you a little bit of healing today,

Harley M Storey
"The Life Coach Toolman!"

6 Responses

  1. Dale
    Loved this and your words moved me to tears... (haven’t even gotten to the music yet!) Thanks for all you do and share
  2. Thelma
    YOU are awesome Thanks for this lovely message made me smile she was a truly inspirational lady
  3. Andy
    Thanks for the post on the Queen of Soul - she touched so many...Did you know once on a variety show Luciano Pavarotti was due to sing...he dropped out at the last moment, and Aretha said, "I can do that..." and did, flawlessly... Her concerts used to include her hits, some classical music, some gospel... Once long ago I interviewed Quincy Jones - we spoke of female vocals and I tried asking him about a number of female vocalists of the time, like Janis Joplin - he said, "She screams..." I said, "What rock female doesn't scream?" & he said "I've never heard Aretha scream..." I continue to love your emails & look forward to them!
  4. Jen
    Thank yoouuuu :-) that was lovely!
  5. Harley Storey
    Thanks for the great comments folks - pleased you enjoyed! Cheers, Harley
  6. Nicole
    Thanks for the blog, don't know how you get my information but I am so happy you did. I have put off becoming a life coach for so long, but for some strange reason, your blog ignited a flame within me as I read your tribute to Aretha Franklin to pursue this obligation to myself. Thanks!

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