The Life Wheel is the first tool I run through
with a client because it helps both the Coach and the client get a life
overview and snapshot of "where you're at"
- Get a blank sheet of paper
- Draw a large circle
- Divide the circle into eight segments - like a pizza - where each piece represents an area of your life as it is now.
- Label each piece - as Health, Self-space, Personal Development, etc.
This Life Wheel is labeled with eight areas of
life. You can use these labels or, if there is a specific area of your
life you would like to examine, just substitute a category.
The general categories are:
- Fun - Happiness, Hobbies
- Relationship - Current or future Life Partner
- Career - Job satisfaction, Career path
- Family - Children, Parents, Relatives
- Social - Friends, Sport, Activities
- Health - Exercise, Diet
- Financial - Savings, Investments
- Creative - Self-space, Spiritual, Sport, Artistic
Once you have drawn and labelled your Life Wheel
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Dear Subscriber,
Here is a selection
of life
coach tools you can
use
yourself or with your
clients.
You can get all these
tools,
by downloading
20 Tools Life Coaches
Use®.
Enjoy!
kind regards
Harley
M Storey
M.I.C.F,
A.C.E (NZSC)
Life Coach,
Managing Director
Flush
Out Those False Beliefs!
Do you ever feel stuck in a rut of unhelpful beliefs,
leading to unhealthy habits causing unconscious actions?
This checklist may give you an idea of what beliefs
need updating!
Step 1 is to complete these sentences:
Congratulations - that took courage!
Step 2 - Now you have identified your false beliefs,
go back and re-do the exercise writing how you would like to be.
For example:
When under pressure I … panic
to
When under pressure I … think
about the situation calmly and ask for support.
When under pressure
I ……………………….……………………….
I often feel guilty
about ……………………………………………………….
When ………………………. happens I stress
out and feel like ……………………….
My Achilles' heel
(greatest weakness) is ……………………….
I am always trying
to stop ……………………..…………. from happening.
When the unexpected
happens I ………………………………………………………..
I always
try to ………………………………………………………..
The biggest obstacle
that stops me loving and approving of myself is ……………….
What drives
most of my behavior is …………………………………………….
I am afraid
of ………………………………………………………..
I seek my ……………'s approval
(always / mostly / usually / occasionally)
My most frequent negative
and uncomfortable emotion
is feeling ………………….
The feeling I dislike
the most is ……………………….
I need to learn
to ………………………………………………………..
Life
Is Garbage & Life Is Great
It's very easy to answer the question "what's wrong"
in your life?
But how about what's "not wrong?"
And what about what's "right?"
It's a wonderful thing to have a non-headache or
a non-toothache, but so often we do not think of the joy of not having
these problems until we experience them and then wish them away.
This exercise can help us redress the balance of
what's really right and wrong in our life …
- Get two blank sheets of paper.
- On one piece of paper, list all of the things that are "wrong" in your life - don't be afraid to be negative - get it all out!
- On the other, write a list of all the positive things in your life right now, including everything that's "not wrong."
- When you have finished, place the two pieces of paper side by side and ask yourself …
- What is of the greatest use to me and what serves me most - to focus on what's "Wrong" or what "Not Wrong'?"
- When you have decided which list is best for you to dwell on, discard the list you do not wish to focus on - throw it away, maybe even bury or burn it, if you wish to make this a memorable event.
Try reading the remaining list every morning for
a week and see what happens!
Hearing
Your Hearts Voice
Do you feel stressed and harassed during the day,
like you're always doing things to please others rather than yourself?
Do you have problems making decisions about insignificant
matters?
Are you unsure about what it is you really want?
Do you find yourself doing things you really don't
want to do and continually acting out of obligation?
Part of being an adult is learning to put the needs
of others, such as our children or employer, ahead of ourselves. But we
can become so used to doing what we feel we should do, or living by the
expectations of others that we lose touch with ourselves.
If we stop listening to our hearts voice, eventually
we won't recognize it. Then we wonder why our life is so dry and un-spontaneous!
We need to re-open the conversation with our heart
- to remember how to listen to our heart and not just our head.
Here's how to recognize your hearts voice:
When you're feeling stressed or that you feel you
have lost your center, ask yourself two questions,
1.
"What am I feeling now?"
2.
"I would like … ?"
Try to listen to the first thought - which will
be from your heart - not your head which comes in with chatter and rationalizing
afterwards.
If the message from your heart is possible and
practical - then do it- take a break, call a friend, pop out for a coffee,
jump up from your desk and shout "Yes!".
If this impulse is not realistic, or merits some
reflection - like quitting your job - just note your hearts message until
its convenient to follow through, but be careful - this habit is life
changing!
Why not try following your heart and doing one
spontaneous thing every day?
And … if you really want to be immature and have
fun in a boring, "grown up" situation, ask yourself:
"What would I do if I was 5?"
Infinite
Solutions Tool
We often feel stuck between a rock and a real hard
place.
At these times of stress we can often only see
two rather unpleasant options.
But we are blessed with a mind that can imagine
of infinite and myriad possibilities - and here's a tool to get your creativity
flowing and demonstate that.
You can use this tool to expand and stretch your
habitual mental pattern of only seeing limited options.
Scenario: Imagine there is a hungry mosquito in
the room whilst you are trying to sleep.
- Now imagine at least twenty possible responses - no matter how crazy.
- Even something like "calling up the pest control at midnight to come and deal with it."
- When you've finished, scroll to the bottom of the page to read a possibility you may have overlooked!*
Now you've got your creativity flowing, write down
your problem then ask …
- How else could I think about that?
- What's another way of looking at this?
- Who could I ask for a new perspective?
Try and come up with twenty new and different ways
of looking at your situation.
*Infinite
Solutions Tool: Did you come up with an option of "just let it bite you
and go back to sleep?"
How
Well Do You Know Your Partner?
So ... how well do you know your partner?
Do you think you know their favorite movie? What
about their favorite day of the week?
This is a fun quiz to do with you and your partner
where you're bound to discover a lot of surprises!
- Get together with your partner.
- Print two copies of this questionnaire (an easily printable copy on pdf is available in 20 Tools Life Coaches Use® available here)
- Take one copy each and separately write down the answers you think your partner would give to the following questions.
- When you have finished, swap your lists, score each other and laugh!
What do you think their …
- favorite movie is
- favorite band or singer, or type of music
- favorite actor, actress
- favorite season
- favorite TV show
- favorite day of the week
- their hero
- favorite time of day
- favorite activity
- the quality they admire most in others
- favorite activity
- best memory together
- who they are closest to in their family
- their best friend
- the personal quality they most appreciate in a partner
- favorite color
- their worst habit
- their best habit
- kindest thing you have done for them
- your most difficult habit for them to deal with
- the hardest issue for them to deal with
- the one word that best describes them
- if they were a car what car would they be?
- what they feel are your three best qualities
- the thing they would most like you to do, what they most want from you
- the way they would like you to communicate love
- what is their loving style - how do they demonstrate their love?
- why you think they love you
Relationship
Tools
My
Dream Partner
When we are single, we usually have just a vague
idea of what our ideal partner might be.
But it is very useful to put time into defining
this person, because then when you meet them - you will be able to recognize
them straight away!
This tool helps you imagine the qualities of your
dream partner.
By asking yourself some questions about your dream
partner you can create a clear picture of them in their mind.
When you have finished, you will have a list of
the qualities you would like in a future partner.
Replace "He" and "She" below as appropriate.
Part I: Questions To Discover Your Future Partners
Qualities
What qualities do you want your potential partner
to demonstrate?
Think about your answers to these questions to
get some ideas:
"How does he make me
feel special?"
"What does she do when
I'm sick in bed?"
"How does he show affection?"
"How does he treat me
in company when we go out?"
"How does he make me
laugh?"
"Her most important quality
is …"
"The best thing about
him is …"
For example:
Question: "How does he
treat me in company when we go out?"
Qualities: He is respectful,
attentive and kind.
Part II: Identifying Your Partners Qualities
In Part I you wrote a list of the qualities of
your Future Partner.
But when you meet someone, how will you know if
they have those qualities?
Now, write down examples of how they will express
those qualities and what actions and behavior will demonstrate those qualities.
For example:
Question: "How does he
treat me in company when we go out?"
Qualities: He is respectful,
attentive and kind.
Behavior: He is attentive
and considerate to me, and kind to the waitress.
Part III: Your Qualities
This is often the part people overlook.
Love is not what you get, but what you give. Harley
M Storey
Now write down the qualities you will bring to
the relationship.
1. Assign a number from 1 to
10 next to each category.
- Write 1 if you are unsatisfied in this area and up to 10 if you are totally satisfied.
2. Look at your scores.
- What are the two lowest scores?
- Choose the two areas you would most like to move forward?
3. How would you feel if you
could significantly move forward in these 2 areas?
4. What actions can you take
to start moving forward in these areas?
5. Get busy!
Life
Priorities Tool®
Would you like to look at another sample tool?
To get a basic version of our
Life Priorities Tool® click
here.
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